When a bride and I start the process of designing her perfect day, to help me with getting a feel for her vision I would ask for a few pictures of items/ideas she really likes. Even though this is right at the start of the process, this is usually where the biggest obstacle for every bride lies. TV shows, Pinterest, wedding blogs, magazines – there is so much information out there that it is almost a given that by this time the bride is confused, irritated, frustrated and just a little manic. Here are a few pointers to help you steer your way through the doldrums of modern day wedding planning:
1) Before you start your research – before you look at a single TV show or Pinterest page, make a list. Choose the colours you would like, and the general style – you don’t have to be terribly specific, but you should have the very basic outline of what your ideal wedding would look like.
2) Now Google your little heart out – but be specific. If you like soft colours and a “country” look and feel, then that’s what you look for. Narrow your searches down to a few key words or phrases – this way you are able to refine your look/theme without the distractions of a million other themes, colours, DIY tricks, and all the other things that would make you doubt yourself and your choices.
3) Make notes about what you DON’T want. This is of immeasurable help to your suppliers, don’t underestimate it! Florists and decor suppliers have experience in putting together themes and wedding looks – so being able to work within a framework of “I like bunting but I hate Chinese lanterns” for example, will make the quoting process easier and faster for your suppliers, and less stressful for you.
4) Stick to your guns – this is YOUR wedding. By all means listen to the advice and ideas of your mother-in-law, maid of honour, and every well meaning friend who got married in the last ten years, but don’t let them bully you into anything you don’t want or like.
5) Educate yourself as to the real price of a wedding – so that you are able to budget realistically. I find that brides are unaware of the actual costs of things like laser cut table numbers and out-of-season flowers, and don’t take into account the labour costs of setting up and styling a venue, or designing and creating beautiful bouquets for the bride and her bridal party. Do your research so that you aren’t taken by surprise and end up disappointed.
6) Enjoy the process! So many brides are completely shattered by the time the wedding comes around, because they are so stressed out by all the little details and of course want everything to be perfect, that they completely forget what the day is about and end up not enjoying themselves at all. Make use of your resources – hand over tasks to people you trust, or make use of a planner if you are able to financially. And then trust them. If you want 100% control over every single detail you are going to end up brunt out emotionally and completely exhausted and look horrible on your wedding photos! All the professionals will tell you this, and you would do well to remember – your guests don’t really care that the ribbon on your guest favours aren’t the exact pink of the roses in your bouquet – they are there to see you betrothed to the man you want to spend the rest of your life with, and to celebrate this happy occasion with you. So how about you do the same?
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